Crafting Clarity in Relationship

Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.
— Brene Brown in her book Daring Greatly

I am part of a group online: "Why I did Feldenkrais today." There are so many answers to this question. For many Feldenkrais is a means to manage chronic pain, inflammation, or ease and flexibility. For me, it's a way to clear my lens.

I believe that I (my body, spirit, mind, all of it) am the lens through which I perceive the world. When I am in physical or emotional pain, my lens is clouded. When my lens is clouded, how can I see the people I love clearly? How can I accurately perceive and accept their imperfect and authentic selves? And how can I perceive myself accurately? If I cannot do these things, how can I truly belong? 

There was a time when I was simply desperate to rid myself of chronic back pain. And along the journey, I discovered myself. I learned to becoming aware of the process of continually becoming and growing. Feldenkrais has become my meditation, my way of clearing the lens so that I can be effective for my clients and for those I love in my family and in my community.

Self awareness is key.

This clarity of my self, and my own patterns are what lead to clarity in relationship. It allows me to love bravely and freely. To dare greatly to present my true self to the world and find belonging, as Brene Brown states in the quote above. 

I have the tools I need now to continue to polish and clarify my lens. To fill in the blank spaces I have yet to discover. But to do it without insisting on perfection. This is why I do Feldenkrais and I am grateful to be able to help others in their own process of discovery. As the man himself (Moshe Feldenkrais) said, “What I'm after isn't flexible bodies, but flexible minds and to restore each person to their human dignity.”

Here's to humanity in all it's perfect imperfections and to the dignity inherent in it. To crafting clarity within ourselves, our communities, and therefore, the world at large.

~ Sharon